20 By faith Isaac blessed Jacob and Esau in regard to their future Hebrews 11:20(NIV)
So Isaac is still waiting for that great nation God promised to his father. He has two sons, not exactly a great nation. Although it doesn’t appear so yet, there will two nations from Abraham. Now Abraham trusted God completely, his wife on the other hand didn’t always have as much faith. She actually is recorded to have laughed at the suggestion she would deliver Isaac in Genesis 21. So she hatches a plan of her own – always dangerous to take God’s plan in to your own hands. She decides to have Hagar, her maidservant, conceive a child with her husband.
Ok, ladies, are you seeing a problem here? I know I am. You would have to half crazy to actually suggest your husband sleep with another woman and not expect some sort of issue to arise. I know it’s a different time and this was an accepted practice. But one thing is still the same no matter the time period: women are jealous creatures who don’t like to share men. God made us that way. He didn’t intend for us to have more that one spouse or sexual partner.
So anyway Abraham agrees to this idea, and Hagar becomes pregnant with a son.
Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; 2 so she said to Abram, “The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.”
Abram agreed to what Sarai said. 3 So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. 4 He slept with Hagar, and she conceived Genesis 16:1-4
Can you guess what happened next? What this what God or Sarai had in mind? Of course not, look what happens in verses 4&5.
When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. 5Then Sarai said to Abram, “You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my slave in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the LORD judge between you and me. Genesis 16:4-5(NIV)
Could we see this coming? Ok, maybe that’s not fair; hindsight is 20/20. Maybe Sarah thought she was being a good wife by stepping aside and letting another woman give him what she couldn’t. There is also one person we are forgetting. Hagar. It doesn’t appear that she gets much of a say in what happens here. She is just forced to sleep with an 85 year old man until and then bear him a son that according to the law at the time won’t even be considered hers. Now that doesn’t seem right at all. Hagar starts to despise Sarah. Do you really blame her? What does Abraham say when Sarah brings this to his attention?
6 “Your slave is in your hands,” Abram said. “Do with her whatever you think best.” Genesis 16:6 (NIV)
What a stand-up guy. Sensing the sarcasm there? If you read the whole account of Abraham’s life in Genesis, you’ll notice he isn’t very assertive and very much avoids conflict at all cost. This trait gets in him in trouble quite a bit. So this mess is now in Sarah’s hands, and this is what she does.
Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her. Genesis 16:6b(NIV)
Amplified translation says And when Sarai dealt severely with her, humbling and afflicting her. So basically Sarah made Hagar’s life miserable and she fled from her. Again; Do you really blame her? But God also takes care of Hagar.
7 The angel of the LORD found Hagar near a spring in the desert; it was the spring that is beside the road to Shur. 8 And he said, “Hagar, slave of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?”
“I’m running away from my mistress Sarai,” she answered.
9 Then the angel of the LORD told her, “Go back to your mistress and submit to her.” 10 The angel added, “I will increase your descendants so much that they will be too numerous to count. Genesis 16:7-9
So God sends an angel to Hagar and tells her to go back to Sarah and be her servant again. Ok that part doesn’t sound so cool, but then he makes her the same promise he made Abraham. That’s pretty awesome. However, there is more to this promise.
11 The angel of the LORD also said to her:
“You are now pregnant
and you will give birth to a son.
You shall name him Ishmael,[a]
for the LORD has heard of your misery.
12 He will be a wild donkey of a man;
his hand will be against everyone
and everyone’s hand against him,
and he will live in hostility
toward[b] all his brothers. Genesis 16: 11&12
I’m not so sure about this promise. He is basically saying her son will be at odds with people all his life. This sounds like a punishment. Well, it kinda is – not for Hagar so much as for Abraham. See, Abraham didn’t trust God as much as he should have and took matters into his own hands. Actually Sarah did, but Abraham knew better and should have said something, hmm…Does this sound familiar? When you know something isn’t right, you should open your mouth and say so, or you could be held accountable. But back to the story.
13 She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen[c] the One who sees me.” 14 That is why the well was called Beer Lahai Roi[d]; it is still there, between Kadesh and Bered.
15 So Hagar bore Abram a son, and Abram gave the name Ishmael to the son she had borne. 16 Abram was eighty-six years old when Hagar bore him Ishmael. Genesis 16:13-16(NIV)
So Hagar blessed God and returned to Sarah and gave birth to Ishmael. God kept his promise to Hagar and Ishmael became the father of the Palestinian nation. A nation who is a problem for the Jewish people to this day. You’ll find the rest of the story of Ishmael in Genesis 21.